Admit it, at least those of you who use social media, you have a love-hate relationship with it all. The whole concept is great…I mean, you can stay in touch with people far away, share pictures with family and friends, make announcements to large masses of people, advertise your business, and now even sell things in an online garage sale-style type of forum.
But then there’s the other side of the coin. When you flip it, you see what’s on the back. What’s there are things you don’t have. Places you haven’t been. Experiences you’ve never had. Some days, the back side just leaves you longing for more.
Because it’s only a natural reflex to see someone having a good time and wishing you had been there or that your family could do those things, be in that place, see what they saw. We notice if we’ve missed an invite, missed an opportunity, or missed a chance at doing something on a day you ended up doing nothing at all.
Come on now. I know I’m talking to someone!
Here’s the funny thing. Those things you’re wishing for…you find yourself getting lost in…that you feel like you’ve missed out on…they’re not meant for you! Harsh reality is, if they were, you’d be experiencing them instead of someone else! Take a second to think of the things you have to be thankful for so far this year…
It doesn’t have to be a long vacation, a party or anything of the sorts. What about your family? friends? church? Have you started school? Got a new job? Moved to a new home?
We have to learn to be content with what we have. Learn to make memories out of the mundane. Be happy for others without forming a jealous thought.
What it boils down to is something we see making way for a thought that we tend to think on. We think on that for so long, in such a way that we start to daydream. We hope, we wish, we long for things that just aren’t ours. Philippians 4:8 says,
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.
We need to park our minds on things of this nature. Things that we can be grateful for. Reasons we’re blessed. We need to park it there and stay there! Those times will come when you see someone else having fun and you need to be happy for them. Happy because they are enjoying their time but also happy because you’ve made your own memories too!
This past weekend, my family and I did a whole lot of nothing! My daughter went through her closet. My husband practiced tying knots with extra rope he had since he was recovering from a back injury and needed to rest. And I worked for many hours on my computer, preparing for a group I’m hosting in a couple months. Those things seem a little boring but here’s the cool thing…
My daughter and I also went grocery shopping together. It’s such a great time to catch up! I took her and a friend on a little FREE morning trip downtown. We BBQed twice! We woke up late, had a delicious breakfast, and even got in some time working out. We watched movies together, went to church together and truly enjoyed just having a whole lot of nothing to do.
Yes, we missed out on some things. Yes, we said no to a few. We could’ve kept ourselves busy. We could be upset because we weren’t invited by everyone to everything. We could be nervous that this is life. But guess what? If it is life, then I think I’m quite happy with it! I am blessed to have a home to live life in! I am blessed to have a vehicle to take me to the park, or for a walk or out for the day. I am blessed to have the opportunity make my own memories and do things my way.
You see, the rise and fall of social media isn’t that it’s going away. It’s that it’s causing our emotions to do things that we shouldn’t allow it to do. If you’re find yourself grazing for infinite amounts of time, or feeling down instead of happy for others, or just noticing a change in your mood once you dive in, then it’s time to bow out. Not forever, unless that’s what you determine is best, but just for awhile. Just until you can recount your blessings.
I know I’ve said this time and time again but here me folks — you CAN control the thoughts you think on. You may not be able to control how they get into your mind but you can choose whether or not they stay there.
So it’s Monday. Maybe you have to work, maybe you don’t. Maybe you’re on vacation, maybe you’re not. Maybe your situation isn’t so bright, maybe, just maybe…it’s how you look at it.
Choose your kind of happy today!